Don’t worry if there is some shy awkwardness early on – this is normal! It will pass.
Want to really impress her? Don’t ask to help, just start pitching in – tackling the dishes while she mops, grabbing clean towels, changing the laundry when it beeps, etc.
You don’t have to act like you’re in a museum! Just be courteous and don’t leave a mess behind you. Make sure you’re not creating more work than when you started. If you don’t know where the dishes go, don’t just start sticking them places to get them out of the way.
Like any other situation, you should always ask for consent before moving on romantically or sexually.
Does she know any common ground you might have with her family or places where you might naturally find conversation? Is there anything you can bring as a small “thank you” gift? While a bottle of wine is the classic choice, it won’t go over well if they don’t drink or you’re a minor.
This is a great way to show her family that you’re independent enough to stand on your own 2 feet, and that you’re with your girlfriend for the right reason.
Check in with her if you think her family would frown on any physical contact. If you’re in doubt, let her initiate anything and just follow her lead. [2] X Research source
Tell stories about yourself, be honest about your goals and hopes, and don’t be afraid to crack a low-key joke or two if it feels right. Stop second-guessing every action and just be yourself. [3] X Research source Speak genuinely about your girlfriend and let her family know what you like about her. That’s a great way to make a good impression.
The more you learn about a girl’s family, the more you also learn about her. This doesn’t mean you need to lie or change your personal beliefs in order to fit in. It simply means trying to listen and learn instead of making things about you. [4] X Research source
Watering plants Doing dishes Washing sheets, blankets, and towels Tending to pets Vacuuming.
She likely has her things in very particular orders and places – be respectful and ask questions when storing your own stuff. You may have ways of doing things you may think are “better” or “more logical,” but remember that this isn’t your house. At the end of the day, her preferences for her stuff take priority. [5] X Research source
Talking about money is never fun, but it is essential to preserve a strong, healthy relationship.
Who does what chores or house maintenance tasks? Etiquette for inviting other people over for visits/dinner/hanging out/etc. Your usual routines, including sleep schedules, and how to be respectful of them. [6] X Research source
If you’re a couple, think about how often you’d like to be together and promise each other to be honest about your mood and feelings. If one of you says no, remind each other that is a firm no, not something to be negotiated. If you’re just friends, talk about when and how it is acceptable to bring someone home with you, and the etiquette about dating and the house.
Keep in mind that you’re in her house, meaning your footprint is going to impact her directly. If, for example, you know that she pays the water bill, don’t take 30-minute showers.
