Why you did what you did, or said what you said, to upset her. What aspect of your personality that comes from. How you plan on fixing it so that neither you nor your girlfriend will have to go through the pain again.
If she seems really upset and doesn’t want to handle your apology right now, leave. Ask her if you can give her a call in a couple days.
Example: “I know I owe you an apology. I shouldn’t have lied to you or your parents about my age. I knew it was the wrong thing to do, but I didn’t want you or them to not trust me because I’m older. I really care about you and your parents, so I plan on apologizing to them directly. I understand if you or they are still mad at me after this. " Example: “I shouldn’t have looked at Stacy the way I did. I know that she’s your friend, and I’d never do anything to jeopardize my relationship with you or your relationship with her. I don’t have an excuse for my actions, only an explanation: lots of guys look at girls. Now that I know it really bothers you, I’ll try my hardest not to make the same mistake again. " Example: “I apologize for calling you that name — I’m not even going to repeat it. It was wrong and degrading. I recognize that. I shouldn’t have gotten worked up, and I shouldn’t have let that slip. I realize that you might change your opinion of me based on that, so I’m going to try to do everything in my power to make it up to you. "
Don’t shift the blame. [8] X Expert Source Michelle Shahbazyan, MS, MALife Coach Expert Interview. 18 March 2020. Even if you’re not the only one who’s at fault, it’s not a good idea to blame her. Your apology won’t work if you do that. Let her express how angry, disappointed, or upset she is. [9] X Expert Source Michelle Shahbazyan, MS, MALife Coach Expert Interview. 18 March 2020. Don’t try to convince her not to be; she has a right to. It’ll make her feel better. Don’t try to show her affection at this point — it’s probably still a little too early. That means no kisses, hugs, or hand holding unless she starts it.
Example: “I know that a letter can’t fully make up for what I did. I also know that a letter won’t fully capture how I feel and what I have to say. What I do know is that I messed up. I can’t imagine not being with you. You’re who I dream of when I go to bed, and who I think of when I wake up in the morning. You’re everything. Nothing I do now will make up for what I did, but I can tell you that I’ll never make that mistake again. I promise from the very bottom of my heart. "
Go for the straightforward public apology. Just go up to her when she’s with a group of friends, have something prepared, and bare your heart. Look her deeply in the eyes when you apologise, and focus your attention solely on her. If you’re feeling really creative, try using a flash mob to apologize to her. Flash mobs require a lot of work and preparation, so be sure it will work if you do decide to pull it off.
Alternately, make her a mix. A mix is a little less personal, but with the right care and thought, it can help you get your message across. Pick both songs you know she loves and songs you think she hasn’t heard.
