To project confidence, make sure you don’t fidget (put your hands in your pockets or hold something to keep your hands occupied). Make eye contact, smile, and speak slowly and clearly. If you are confident that the person likes you, it should lessen your fear of rejection.
To start the conversation you can say something like, “Hey, did you see last night’s episode of American Horror Story? It was so crazy. " You can also say something like, “Hey, how’s your day going so far?”
To establish that you want to go on a “date” rather than hang out as friends, you can say, “Hey, do you want to go out on a date with me over the weekend?” If you’ve already gone on dates with the person and you want them to be your boyfriend or girlfriend, you can say something like, “I like when we hang out and go on dates. I’m not interested in going out with anyone else — do you want to be exclusive?”
If they already have plans for the day, you can say something like, “Oh, okay, well do you have free time next week?” If they say they don’t have time at all, then drop it and wait until they feel comfortable going out with you.
If they say no, you can say something like, “Oh okay, that’s totally cool. I just thought that you liked me that way, but I feel totally alright with just being friends. "
If the person tries to talk about deeper and personal things rather than superficial pleasantries, it’s a good chance that they may like you. [4] X Research source You can say something like, “Hey, I really have a good time hanging out with you. Would you like to go on a date?” You can also say something like, “I noticed that we are similar in a lot of different ways, and I like spending time with you. Do you feel the same way?”
Take note of how the person interacts with other people as well. Do they pay you special attention or is this person regularly flirtatious with others as well? If the person crosses their arms or legs and sits pointing away from you, this could be an indication that they don’t like you. [6] X Research source
Concentrate on what they have to say and take it in and internalize it. Instead of spending time thinking about your response, hear them out. [8] X Research source Pay attention to how well they listen to you too. If they’re quiet and attentive when you’re talking and make eye contact with you, there’s a chance they’re interested. [9] X Expert Source Eddy BallerDating Coach Expert Interview. 7 February 2020.
You can say something like, “I noticed that you might like me in a deeper way because of the way you act around me. I like you like that too, and would be open to dating. " You can say something like, “We started off as friends, but the more we hang out, the more I’m developing feelings for you and would like to take you out on dates. Would you be open to that?”
You can say something like, “I really like Greg but I’m not sure if he likes me the same way back. Do you have any idea?”
It is important to gauge your own level of comfort with these things first. If you don’t feel ready to do something, you don’t need to do it. Acts of non-sexual intimacy including hugging, holding hands, dancing, or even making something together.
