You might go for coffee with your friend and find a moment to talk about your feelings. For instance, you might say, “Since we went to that concert with your sister Sarah and her friends in July, I’ve been having some pretty serious feelings for Sarah. I haven’t had these kinds of feelings for a long time, and they aren’t going away. I wanted to let you know because I would like to ask her out for dinner. " If your friend questions your intentions, try restating your genuine feelings for her. If they reassure you that everything is fine, then you know the conversation has gone well.
If you are at your best friends house for dinner and there is a conversation about a family vacation, you might listen for details about her experience of the trip.
For instance, if you know she practices Judo twice a week, you might ask her, “What do you like about Judo? And how is it different from the other martial arts?” By expressing an interest in something she is passionate about, you can learn more about her life and her interests.
You might say, “I remember you saying you love dark roast coffee. I found an amazing coffee place on third street downtown that has this incredible Italian roast. I think you would appreciated it. Do you want to check it out on the weekend?” For instance, you might say, “A few friends and I are going rock climbing at Echo point on the weekend. We are thinking of making the day of it, maybe bringing a lunch and trying to get in three or four climbs. Do you want to join us?”
You could ask, “what are you up to this weekend?” She might reply, “I have a soccer game on Saturday afternoon, and then a study group. I’m not sure yet what I’m doing afterwards. ” If she says something like this, you could then say, “That sounds fun. I was considering a movie on Saturday night. Maybe you would like to join me after your study session?” For instance, you could also find an opportunity to help her with one of her projects. You might ask, “How are you feeling about your upcoming theatre production at Studio Y?” If she says she is worried about her lines, you might say something reassuring like, “You work so hard on them, I know you’ll be great! But if you want to practice them some more, I would be happy to help out. Maybe we could grab a coffee and I could listen and give line prompts?”
