For example, you may support a friend’s dream to be a musician by going to their shows and promoting their music on social media. Or you may support a family member’s career goal by offering to help them study for an exam or test.
You can also assure friends, family, and your partner that you are open to listening to their thoughts any time. You may say, “Just know that I am here for you if you need someone to talk to” or “I’m always willing to listen to you and hear you out. ”
For example, you may support a friend dealing with a break up by reminding them of all the positive things they have going on in their life. Or you may support a family member with an illness by acting friendly, positive, and energetic around them to keep their spirits up.
For example, instead of judging a friend who is struggling with addiction, support their efforts to get help. And don’t let a family member’s different lifestyle choices blind you to all the reasons why you care about them. Try not to be scared by ideas and lifestyles that are different from yours but instead, embrace them. It can be most difficult to be empathetic to those most different from ourselves.
For example, you may say to friends, “I have to be honest with you about how I feel” or you may say to a family member, “Honestly, I am not sure if that is a good idea…” You can (and should) give your honest opinion without being judgmental. Instead of saying “that’s a bad idea” or “I wouldn’t do that,” try something like “It’s your decision to make, but if it were me I’d . . . “.
If you hear others gossiping around you, encourage them to stop. You may say, “Let’s not gossip or indulge in rumors” or “I’d prefer to talk to my friend or partner rather than believe gossip. ”
Avoid being flaky and try not to cancel plans last minute, as this can show others you are not trustworthy. You can quickly build a negative reputation for flaking if you’re not careful with your actions. Show up on time and be present for others when you say you will. Use your actions to prove that when you say you will be there, you mean it.
For example, you may stand up for a friend when someone tries to slander them or bring them down. Or you may stand up for your partner when they need support during a difficult discussion or argument.
Keep in mind being loyal does not mean blindly following what others want or expect. Instead, you should feel like you want to be loyal to others based on their character and actions.
If you notice others are taking advantage of you, sit them down and explain how you are feeling. Address the issue, rather than ignoring it. Be honest and forthcoming about your feelings. It is then up to the person to change their behavior and respond positively to your concerns.
For example, you may pick one day in the week where you do something on your own, without your significant other. Or you may break up your week so you have time to socialize with friends and time to yourself.
Giving yourself time for self-care can help prevent you from burning out on being loyal and supportive for friends, family, and partners all the time. Guard this self-care time so you can always meet your emotional needs. Avoid readily giving it away.
