Confidence is often communicated non-verbally. Stand up tall with your shoulders pulled back, don’t slouch or bow your head. [2] X Research source Speak slowly and clearly. Speaking too quickly can indicate a lack of authority. Speaking slowly adds gravitas to what you say, making people think what you have to say is important. [3] X Research source

Remember to keep it subtle, staring at someone is not mysterious. [5] X Research source The eyes are the most expressive part of the face. [6] X Research source Be aware of the micro-expressions you make with your eyes, including sarcastic eye-rolling or scrunching up your eyes in disgust. Keep these to a minimum and you will appear mysterious and unreadable.

Arms and hands are important. Avoid fidgeting with your hands, which can convey anxiety, instead place them in a neutral, comfortable position. For example, if you are sitting, gently hold your hands in your lap. If standing, let your hands rest comfortably at your side. [7] X Research source Don’t be completely closed off, you will appear aloof rather than invitingly mysterious. For example, folding your arms, crossing your legs and turning your torso away from someone indicates that do not want to engage with them. [8] X Research source

Accept invitations when you want to, so that people can get to know you and enjoy your presence, but say no to a few as well. Give him a chance to miss you. Leave a party early. Be as fun as possible while you are there but leave early. Make it seem as if you have somewhere important to be, but don’t reveal the details. [11] X Research source Don’t document everything on social media. Social media can be a fun and a great way to interact with people, but keeping certain things private will create a sense of mystery about you.

Give short, direct answers to questions but do not offer much detail. For example, when someone asks, “Are you from around here?” Answer simply, “No, I’m not. " Answer in a friendly tone to intrigue them and invite more questions rather than appearing rude and abrupt. If you’re in a group don’t engage so much in the conversation, but rather stand there with a mysterious smile on your face. [13] X Expert Source Nicole MooreLove & Relationship Coach Expert Interview. 6 October 2021.

Start a dance party at an unlikely moment. It might feel silly at first but the more you do it the more comfortable you will feel. [15] X Research source Go to a restaurant and order the craziest thing on the menu. Encourage others to join you in your spontaneous actions. Perhaps you will have a positive effect on them. At least they won’t be bored!

Suggest an activity he wouldn’t think you’d enjoy. If you always appear professional and corporate, suggest rock climbing or go-karting. Show your playful side.

Try to see the humor in unfortunate or absurd situations. Don’t be offensive. Recognize that laughing is often a good way to deal with uncomfortable emotions. [16] X Research source

For example, turn off the TV and go out on a date. Pick something new that neither of you have tried before. Start a new hobby, find something that you both enjoy.

For example, if your partner has always asked you to go to drawing classes with them but you’ve always said no, say yes! Buy them a gift for no reason. You don’t have to spend money, you can make something for them.

For some people, keeping bodily functions and bathroom matters private is important. Consider how you feel about this, every relationship is different. [18] X Research source

Remember that you are two separate people with different interests and you don’t need to do everything together.