Realize that your weight is not the only thing that matters. It is not the most important part of who you are or how you present yourself to others. [1] X Research source
It’s also important to dress your body– as it is now– in clothes that fit it well now. Even if you plan to lose weight, wearing too-small clothes is not a way to feel confident in your current size.
If other people do not notice your appeal, act like they should and they will notice you. Fake confidence until you have it. Act like you feel good about yourself and you probably will start to feel so. [3] X Research source Be decisive. Take charge of situations and be assertive [4] X Research source Choose your spots. Don’t exhaust yourself by acting confident all the time.
Staying healthy can make sure you feel better about yourself and your appearance, so maintain healthy eating and drinking habits. Don’t worry if you are overweight. You can still be healthy even if you are big for your age.
Try to do a bit of exercise everyday. [6] X Research source Do different workouts. Try walking one day and jogging the next. [7] X Research source Do some weightlifting. Don’t hurt yourself, but see what you can do.
Miracle diets or diet pills are unhealthy. If it’s not tested/approved by the Food and Drug Administration, it could be a scam or lead to other costly health complications. [8] X Trustworthy Source FamilyDoctor. org Family-focused medical advice site run by the American Academy of Family Doctors Go to source Be cautious of developing body issues. If you find yourself engaging in unhealthy eating behavior, make sure you realize it and get help. Disorders like anorexia or bulimia are serious and do not make you healthier or skinnier. If you struggle with them, make sure to talk to someone. [9] X Trustworthy Source American Psychological Association Leading scientific and professional organization of licensed psychologists Go to source
Share yourself and your experiences. Others will find you fun and interesting. Have good self-esteem. Feeling confident makes more confident. Think of your favorite role models and imagine yourself being like them. People you admire likely have something that you recognize in yourself. Let your role models bring out the best in you. [10] X Research source
Highlight your best qualities. You may be friendly, gentle, polite, funny, talkative, or honest. Don’t be too shy. Even if you are a shy person, contributing in conversation draws people to you. [11] X Research source Have a good attitude. People like others based on how they act, not how they look. Feel good about yourself, your personality, and your abilities.
Show interest in others. Make new friends by asking questions and paying attention. Try to be respectful of everyone around you, especially other overweight people (they may want to befriend you due to you both having similar problems). Include everyone and don’t focus on the negatives about any person. Know that not everyone will like you. Even if you’ve been friendly, some people still may not like you. Focus only on what you can control and don’t worry about them.
Laugh at yourself, especially if you do anything dumb or clumsy. Don’t take yourself too seriously and have fun. Have a smile for everyone. Smile at others to brighten up their day. Be the first person to compliment or congratulate others. Don’t resent other people’s accomplishments. Celebrate them for the great person they are. Don’t try too hard. The important thing is to have good times with everyone around you.
Don’t worry about being popular. Spend time with yourself first. Do only things that you want to do. Don’t focus exclusively on what others want to do. Develop a strong sense of self-worth. Focus on yourself instead of popularity. You will be more secure when talk to others.
Learn to play an instrument. Music can help you to learn more about yourself. Playing an instrument can be a rewarding experience. [12] X Research source Speak a foreign language. Picking up a new language is difficult, but it can be helpful in many ways. Learn more about a different culture while also picking up an important skill. [13] X Research source Read and expand your horizons. Studying is important as well as maintaining good grades. It can also help you learn more about yourself, and the world around you. Be creative. Try out different artistic experiences to see if any fit you.
Be the smarter person and walk away if others make fun of you about your weight. Getting angry at them is not worth it. [14] X Research source Don’t engage in negative thinking. If people are mean to you, that’s not a reflection of you. Instead, it says a lot more about them and their insecurities. Don’t let others make you feel insecure. Feel good because of who you are, not what other people think about you.
