Fear of failure is one of the things that tends to hold you back from achieving or finding your talent. By returning to childhood, you’re taking yourself out of that fear of failure or limitations mindset. Consider what it was you wanted to do when you were a child, and consider the things that you loved to do as a child. This doesn’t mean that you get to raise dragons (sorry), or anything like that, but it can set you on a path towards your talent. For example, you might not be able to raise dragons but you might turn that desire towards writing stories, or leading a dragon camp at your local library.
For example, if what you really love is playing video games, that can absolutely be a talent. While you might not be able to play them as your job, you can still find ways to use that talent (reviewing games on your blog or streaming to Twitch). Consider questions like: What is it you fantasize about doing when you’re bored at work or school? If you were given unlimited funds, what would you do with that? If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go? If you didn’t have to work, how would you occupy your day? Answering these and similar questions can help you uncover what you’re good at and what inspires you.
Sometimes the areas you wish to have talent, aren’t necessarily where others see you as having talent. That’s okay! Just because you don’t have an inborn talent at something, doesn’t mean you can’t be good at it and just because you have a talent at something doesn’t mean that you need to pursue that in your life. For example: your family and friends might point to your talent as lying in the area of math, especially accounting and figures, but your true passions lie in rock-climbing. Instead of thinking you should throw in the towel on rock-climbing, consider using your math abilities to help you fund your rock-climbing passion.
Observe and enjoy the talents of other people. In your quest for your own talent you should look into the talents of other people. Think about the people that you know who are talents (maybe your father is an amazing cook, maybe your mom has an amazing ability to listen) and enjoy their talents. Go out in your community. Take classes offered at your local university; attend lectures or author meets at your local library or bookstore; try out cooking, rock-climbing, or mentoring at the local school.
A lot of people find their talent through a moment that changes their life, that isn’t scripted, or expected. It can happen that a brilliant musician attends a certain performance, which ignites a love of music in them. So, when confronted with something that might trigger that change in you, sit quietly and absorb the experience. Go solo. Do things by yourself, especially new things. This will give you time to figure out whether you have a talent for something without feeling like you have to perform one way or another in front of people.
Set aside specific time each day that’s devoted to practicing your talent. For example, if writing is your talent, set aside a half hour before work every morning to get up and write. If your talent is basketball, get out there and practice on the court. Focus on the areas that you’re less talented in. Even if you have a talent, it doesn’t mean that you’re going to be talented at every aspect of something. For example, you might have a talent for capturing dialogue, but struggle to create a coherent plot.
Identify your thought patterns. The first step towards combating negativity is to notice when you’re doing, and what you’re doing. Perhaps you only allow the bad things into your mind (this is called filtering), or you tend to catastrophize everything. Notice how you think about yourself, about situations, and about your talent (do you for instance place undue importance on your talent?). Check in with your thinking every day. You have to be vigilant about your own thinking before you can work towards changing it. When you catch yourself catastrophizing (“I’m a failure because I keep forgetting to turn in my library books”), stop and identify the thought as what it is. Practice positive or neutral self-talk. The trick is to replace your negative thinking with positive or neutral thinking. So, for example, when you start to think that you’re a failure because you’re having difficulty with a piano piece, turn that thought around and think “This is a challenging piece and I may have to practice harder to perform it to the standard that I would like. " With a thought like that you’re no longer casting value judgments on yourself.
Your talents are going to make you the best at everything at every time. By being kind to yourself and not having how well you, or your talent does, determine your well-being, you’ll be more likely to feel happier. You can use your talents in the service of kindness. This can help you feel fulfilled, as rather than focusing on what your talent can do for you, you’re using your talent for other people. For example, If you’re a writer, you could write a story for a sick friend to help cheer them up.
Challenging yourself is a good way to stay humble, as well. There’s nothing wrong with being proud about your accomplishments, but bragging or believing you can do no wrong is a surefire way to irritate those around you, or to lead to you taking a fall. Challenge yourself by going above and beyond what you’ve already done. Learned Spanish fluently? Work to translate a favorite book into Spanish, or start on a new language, something more difficult, like Arabic or Chinese. Whenever you feel like you’ve plateaued or conquered some aspect of your talent, take it to a new level.
Do things that don’t have anything to do with your talent, things that you’re really bad at, or simply things that you find fun. This way you won’t be limiting yourself and you’ll have a wide range of experiences to draw on. For example: if your talent lies in math, try branching out and doing art, or going to the gym and trying out yoga. Avoid basing your self-worth on your talent and avoid basing your whole life on your talent. You can be motivated and focused without letting your talent take over your life. [7] X Research source
For example, just because you’re a trained singer, doesn’t mean that you need to go into professional opera singing. You could use your musical abilities to start a singing camp for kids, or to help ease the seriously ill. Look around to see what’s needed in terms of your talents. If you identify a missing need you could start up your own job. For example: if your talent is getting to know people, you could start up a business dedicating to connecting people with one another in your community.
For example, if you love do artwork and you work at a coffee shop, consider decorating the specials blackboard, or turning your passion for art into learning latte art. Stop and consider how your talent might benefit your workplace. What is it you have to offer that might provide a creative or unusual solution to a problem?
Consider creating a video or blogging series about your talent. For example, you might use your language skills to help others learn Arabic. Find other people who are talented in the same manner and work with them, either online or in person. This is another great way to stay humble about your skills, but it can also be fun. These people will share your passions and help speed you along to better work.
Tutor low-income kids in your community in math skills, if math is your specialty. Participate in or create a local theater camp if acting is your talent. Offer to teach families in your city about gardening, or about fixing things, and so on and so on. You can find a million ways to give back. Be a mentor to someone in your field. If you’ve already gotten that professorship, for example, offer to mentor an up-and-coming graduate student in your field and help them identify their talents!
