When speaking with the owner you might say, “What a cute dog! Is it alright if I pet him?”
At this point you might ask the owner (if there is one) for any tips about how to interact with their dog. They might suggest, for example, that you keep your distance for a bit.
Once you get into a crouching or seated position you lose much of your ability to retreat quickly. It is not advisable to assume this position if the dog is acting overtly aggressive.
When the dog finally loosens up you can move your hand forward for a gentle pet. However, continue to avoid the facial area. This makes a dog feel vulnerable. Instead, gently rub their side or back. If at any point in this process the dog bares its teeth, wrinkles its nose, or growls you should retreat and try again later.
If the dog begins to associate your presence with food, then you are making progress in the battle of bonding.
For example, if your dog was physically abused by their previous owner (who was a man) then (if you are a man) you may face an even steeper uphill battle in building trust. Remind yourself of this and be even more patient when initiating touch with your dog. If your dog is only unfriendly around food, for instance, then you might want to leave it alone at these times. Try to make bonding inroads during other moments.
Part of this will also push your dog’s “re-set” button and signal that this is a new environment requiring new types of interactions, as compared to their previous one.
For this to work you truly will need to stand still. Don’t make a movement. Don’t try to pet your dog. Don’t reach out.
You can gently toss the treat to the floor or you can place it in your open palm for your dog to take.
To find a good obedience class you can check your veterinarian or you can call your local pet store. You can also look online by typing in your city’s name and “obedience classes. "
Even a change of diet has been shown to lessen the anxiety in some dogs, leading to a more positive experience for their owners.
