Pick a place where you can talk privately. A place that’s filled with memories of your relationship (such as the place where you had your first date or your bedroom) might not be the best place to talk. Try taking a walk around the block. If you’re in a long-distance relationship, get as close as “face-to-face” as you can. Have a conversation over Skype or FaceTime.
Try saying something like, “I need to have an important talk with you later. ” You could also say, “Can we talk later? I have something I want to discuss with you. ”
For example, say something like, “I really enjoy spending time with you because you’re so adventurous. We’ve been on some amazing hikes together, and I’ve enjoyed your company and our conversations. ” Or try, “I really admire how committed you are to your job. It’s rare to see someone so committed to health care policy reform, and I really respect your dedication. ”
“I love spending time with you, but I don’t think our personalities mesh well enough to continue our relationship. ” “I think you’re really wonderful, but I’m not in the right mindset for a boyfriend right now. ” “We had a couple of nice dates, but I think I need to be with someone a little more invested. When you cancelled our third date three weeks in a row, I didn’t feel like I was a priority. ” Do not say, “You’re really nice, but I just don’t think you’re attractive. ” You can work around this issue to be a little nicer. Try, “We have great conversations, but I don’t think that we really ‘click’ in a romantic sense. ”
For example, if he asks you when you can return his iPhone charger, make a plan to drop it off in his mailbox later that night. However, if he asks you if you’re breaking up with him because he’s gained a little weight since you started dating, try to stop the conversation thereafter. Do not promise that you will talk soon or be friends afterward. You need time to decide if those things are best for both of you.
